Temper Tantrums - Tips for Parents and Caregivers
Temper tantrums result from an overload of strong feelings that a child cannot
control or express with words. They are seen most often in children one to four
years of age. Most tantrums are harmless.
Children having a temper tantrum may:
- Cry
- Scream
- Kick their feet and pound their fists
- Throw themselves on the floor
- Hold their breath
- Clench their teeth
- Bang their heads
- Bite and hit other people
Tantrums are likely to happen when a child is:
- Tired or rushed
- Anxious or moody
- Sick
- Hungry or thirsty
- Frustrated or angry
- Looking for attention
Here are some ways you can prevent a tantrum:
- Satisfy your child's need for attention by listening to them and praising
good behaviour.
- Offer healthy snacks between meals; these are an important part of a young
child's nutrition.
- Make sure your child has the rest she needs by setting regular bedtimes
and nap times.
- Avoid situations that cause frustration for your child. Try not to say "no"
too often.
- Give your child the words to express his feelings - "You sound angry".
What can you do if your child has a tantrum?
- Stay calm and speak quietly.
- Refrain from getting angry, shouting, or spanking.
- Find the reason for the tantrum.
- Soothe your child with a hug.
- Make sure she does not hurt herself or anyone else.
- If the child is being aggressive, remove him from the situation and take
him to a quiet place.
Parents should be concerned and seek help from their doctor if the child:
- Still has a tantrum beyond the age of five.
- Holds her breath and faints, or has a seizure during a temper tantrum.
- Develops headaches or stomach aches.
- Displays extreme anxiety or aggression.
- Regresses in toilet training.
- Has frequent nightmares.
For more information call the Parent Talk Information Line at 905-688-3762
or 1-888-505-6074 extension 7555.
Adapted with permission of the City of Ottawa, Early Years Health Program
